I was doing some meal planning the other night, and for some reason, this post popped into my head. It was a really good reminder for me that as I serve my family in the kitchen, I need to keep being intentional to bless my husband with what I make. Hope this post serves as a loving reminder for you, too! :)
Originally Published October 2008
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I haven't been all that happy with the food I've been preparing
lately. Not because it isn't healthy, or frugal, or because it takes
too much work, or anything like that. Not even because it doesn't taste
good to me (because it does).
I made a realization, though. Over
the last year or so, I have slowly shifted away from making many of the
simple, basic, North American style meals that my husband loves. In
favor of that, I have moved towards more ethnic meals, more beans and
legumes, more experimenting, and less sticking with what we know and
This past month, I started really noticing that my
husband hasn't been as keen on my cooking. In fact, neither have my
kids. It's harder to make use of the leftovers in the fridge, so I end
up eating most of them myself. I miss the rave reviews, and the hugs
and kisses when my husband comes home from work and sees what's waiting
She does him GOOD, and not harm, all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12
been revealing and convicting for me, in many regards. The one that
really hit me yesterday was that making all the healthy and interesting
dishes in the world is just a complete waste if it isn't doing good to the most important man in my life!
there's a shift taking place. Last night while my husband was out at an
event, I spent a lot of time writing out a list of meals that I think
would serve him better, meals that he would be excited to eat once
again. They don't sound quite as healthy, but in actuality they can all be made with nourishing ingredients,
and have generous helpings of salad and veggies added to their sides
(and my hubby loves veggies, so that's not a problem at all).
My new meal plans will include a lot more dishes like: taco salad, fajitas, roast beef, homemade pizza, lasagna, quesadillas, beef stew, grilled cheese and homemade tomato soup, meatballs, turkey stromboli, salmon or chicken kebabs, cheesy beef and rice, spaghetti with tomato sauce, mashed potatoes, butter chicken, burritos, and I'm sure you get the point.
I'll still make the odd lentil or butternut squash soup, or cold rice
and bean salad, or the like. Mostly, though, I will be refocusing my
efforts on making these comfort foods that he really loves, with high
quality ingredients and nourishing methods, along with a really good
variety of veggies alongside them. I already examined my budget to see
how I could make this work, and it's tight (not that it wasn't before),
it requires more discipline and intentionality, but I think it will be
alright. (And a huge thanks to Laura, whose meal plans, recipes and Getting Real with Food series were such an invaluable help to me last night!)
of all, I told my husband what I was thinking, and read him the list of
meals I had put together. He smiled, and the relief was so evident, not
just in his face, but his whole body relaxed. He said he would love it
if I made meals like that all the time. I could instantly see that this
change was truly doing my husband good.
It's okay to want to
challenge our families a bit, and make new and interesting and
nutritious dishes. But our priority is still to serve our husbands (and
our children, though I do believe their tastes need to be guided by us
for the most part). If what we're making just isn't doing it for him,
then something needs to change.
I want to truly "do him GOOD", and that includes what I do in my kitchen.
the food that you're serving bless your husband? Are you trying to make
healthy changes that he is resisting? How have you learned to balance
improving your diet with making food that he still loves?