Sometimes I end up rummaging through past posts for one reason or another, and a post that I have written (and forgotten about) will jump out at me and I am freshly inspired by whatever it was that spurred me on to write the post in the first place.
The quote below is from just such a post that I re-discovered a few weeks ago. It was called “Rejoicing in my Role“, and it keenly expressed a challenge that I still deal with, more than two years after penning the words.
I know that so many of you grew up like me. You were encouraged to pursue education and career, rather than family and home. You learned how to cook by trial, error and fire alarm (burnt cookies, anyone?). When you had your first baby, you were overwhelmed by the sheer weight of responsibility and the realization that you didn’t have a clue how to really care for a baby’s needs, let alone balance the laundry, cleaning, cooking, errands and more with the all-consuming demands of mothering.
You didn’t learn how to do any of this, but now, this is your life, day in and day out.
You have the choice to fully embrace it, learn it, love it, and rejoice in it, or to resent it and show your children through your daily attitude that you don’t truly cherish the roles of mama and homemaker that have been bestowed upon you.
Attitude speaks volumes. We don’t have to use words to communicate deeply to our children, to our husbands, to those who are silently watching us live our lives exactly what we think about the calling that we have been given.
I speak as one who is convicted by these thoughts all over again. I am not exemplary in this area, not by a long shot. I need to be reminded as much as many of you do. So here goes…
Are You Rejoicing in Your Role?
Do I rejoice in the role that God has given me in my home? Is it evident? Do others, and especially my children, see that I love being a woman, love caring for them, love serving my husband and love making my home a haven, both for our family and for others?
In a session (at a homeschool conference I had just attended), on training and raising daughters to be homemakers and helpmeets, this question really struck a chord with me. If I want my daughters to grow up embracing the Biblical role of becoming a wife, mother and homemaker someday (because although not every daughter is assured of being married or having children, this is the normative path for women in scripture, and it is what we feel that we ought to be preparing our daughters for), then I need to consider the example I set.
The role that I have now is not the one that I trained for. I spent 13 years in public school, and 4 years in a liberal arts university, preparing to be anything BUT a homemaker (because I was “way too smart to waste myself on just being at home”, or so the voices around me worked to convince me). It is still a learning curve for me, balancing housework, cooking, child training, home educating, and serving my husband. I still so often feel overwhelmed and under-equipped for the task at hand.
But regardless of how I feel… what do I communicate? That I revel in the role that God has given me? That there is absolutely no where else I would rather be? That I accept with joy even the mundane parts of my day (the laundry, the toilets, etc.)?
My daughters (and my sons as well) need to see a picture of a woman that is at rest, and even better, rejoicing in her role. They need to know that I love being a wife. Love being a mom. Love caring for my home and showing hospitality. That what God has called me to do is a privilege and NOT a burden.
My goal for today? To choose joy and contentment. To purposefully express to my daughter how very good God’s ways are, and how right He was to place me right where I am- in my home!