Comments on: If Motherhood Isn’t a Competitive Sport, Then Why Do We Beat Ourselves Up? http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html Naturally inspired living for homemakers Mon, 13 May 2013 12:13:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: Nikki http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-89937 Nikki Tue, 31 Jul 2012 18:13:10 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-89937 Meant to say I needed the honesty from everyone. Meant to say I needed the honesty from everyone.

]]> By: Nikki http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-89934 Nikki Tue, 31 Jul 2012 17:58:43 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-89934 Well, the article was a relief for me. And I have to say, these comments from Diane, Stephanie, Kresha and Sheri were a blessing as well. Diane your last comment really resonated with me. I think I'm the same exact way, I want to be a blessing. I needed the honestly from everyone. I will read this article and comments over and over again. Thanks all. Well, the article was a relief for me. And I have to say, these comments from Diane, Stephanie, Kresha and Sheri were a blessing as well. Diane your last comment really resonated with me. I think I'm the same exact way, I want to be a blessing. I needed the honestly from everyone. I will read this article and comments over and over again. Thanks all.

]]> By: Saturday Select–July 21, 2012 | Home Educating Family Association Blog http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-89435 Saturday Select–July 21, 2012 | Home Educating Family Association Blog Sat, 21 Jul 2012 08:12:24 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-89435 [...] If you enjoyed Teisha Priest’s post yesterday about not comparing homeschools, then you’ll also enjoy this post about motherhood being a competitive sport! [...] [...] If you enjoyed Teisha Priest’s post yesterday about not comparing homeschools, then you’ll also enjoy this post about motherhood being a competitive sport! [...]

]]> By: DianeinTX http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88942 DianeinTX Thu, 12 Jul 2012 15:54:19 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88942 Thank you for your replies Stephanie, Kresha and Sheri. I do tend to beat myself up and feel like an utter failure most of the time on all fronts. It seems like I am a guilt addict. As I usually can't go a day without messing something up to the point that I feel guilt. I know, I know - "There is no condemnation in Christ". But I have plenty of condemnation for myself. Thankfully, I have a wonderful husband of 25 years that loves me no matter how messy the house or how much I don't get accomplished. And I have 4 beautiful, healthy kiddos who forgive their mom for loosing her temper, way more than they should have to. And, of course, I have a Savior who loves me and has paid for all of my failures on the cross. I know I am blessed beyond measure. Just wishing I could live my life so that I am a blessing to those around me instead of a burden. Thank you for your replies Stephanie, Kresha and Sheri.

I do tend to beat myself up and feel like an utter failure most of the time on all fronts. It seems like I am a guilt addict. As I usually can't go a day without messing something up to the point that I feel guilt.

I know, I know - "There is no condemnation in Christ". But I have plenty of condemnation for myself.

Thankfully, I have a wonderful husband of 25 years that loves me no matter how messy the house or how much I don't get accomplished. And I have 4 beautiful, healthy kiddos who forgive their mom for loosing her temper, way more than they should have to. And, of course, I have a Savior who loves me and has paid for all of my failures on the cross.

I know I am blessed beyond measure. Just wishing I could live my life so that I am a blessing to those around me instead of a burden.

]]> By: Cheryl (Copperswife) http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88908 Cheryl (Copperswife) Wed, 11 Jul 2012 22:19:14 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88908 Well said! I loved this, "Let's also redefine this paradigm - rather than asking ourselves if we measure up to other people, let's ask ourselves if we're measuring up to our calling. (Surprisingly, that's much more manageable, as Christ has much more grace for our faults than the Social Media Mavens.)" As women, as Christian women in particular, we should be spurring one another on with encouragement like this without making one another feel "less than" or not quite up to some artificial standard. At the end of the day, Jesus cares more about the state of our hearts than the state of our homes. Well said! I loved this, "Let's also redefine this paradigm - rather than asking ourselves if we measure up to other people, let's ask ourselves if we're measuring up to our calling. (Surprisingly, that's much more manageable, as Christ has much more grace for our faults than the Social Media Mavens.)"

As women, as Christian women in particular, we should be spurring one another on with encouragement like this without making one another feel "less than" or not quite up to some artificial standard. At the end of the day, Jesus cares more about the state of our hearts than the state of our homes.

]]> By: priest's wife (@byzcathwife) http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88903 priest's wife (@byzcathwife) Wed, 11 Jul 2012 20:53:06 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88903 yes...but...SOMETIMES what I could pass off as 'mommy guilt' or competitiveness is really God convicting me that I have work to do (not 'Pinterest style'- just improving in my vocation) yes...but...SOMETIMES what I could pass off as 'mommy guilt' or competitiveness is really God convicting me that I have work to do (not 'Pinterest style'- just improving in my vocation)

]]> By: Kari http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88893 Kari Wed, 11 Jul 2012 16:41:54 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88893 Amen! My mom and I were talking about this very thing one day. It's hard enough to be a mom but has the age of blogging added even more pressure-I think so! But at the end of the day I can only do my best. I think God understands that I'm not a cloth-diapering, baby wearing, exclusively breastfeeding til 5, only organic buying, cooking from scratch 100%, growing all our food, using only herbal alternatives momma. He knows my strengths and weaknesses and loves me in spite of them. I (and all mamas) need to learn to do the same! Stop the guilt...He doesn't expect us to be Supermom...just super moms to our little ones! Amen! My mom and I were talking about this very thing one day. It's hard enough to be a mom but has the age of blogging added even more pressure-I think so! But at the end of the day I can only do my best. I think God understands that I'm not a cloth-diapering, baby wearing, exclusively breastfeeding til 5, only organic buying, cooking from scratch 100%, growing all our food, using only herbal alternatives momma. He knows my strengths and weaknesses and loves me in spite of them. I (and all mamas) need to learn to do the same! Stop the guilt...He doesn't expect us to be Supermom...just super moms to our little ones!

]]> By: Brittnie (A Joy Renewed) http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88886 Brittnie (A Joy Renewed) Wed, 11 Jul 2012 13:10:00 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88886 Great post! I am a new mom. My daughter is just two months old. I am already finding myself getting caught up in the comparison games even this early!! How long my friends baby is sleeping at night, how much breast milk my friend is able to pump etc etc. Enough already! Great post! I am a new mom. My daughter is just two months old. I am already finding myself getting caught up in the comparison games even this early!! How long my friends baby is sleeping at night, how much breast milk my friend is able to pump etc etc. Enough already!

]]> By: Laura@FoodSnobSTL http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88872 Laura@FoodSnobSTL Wed, 11 Jul 2012 08:30:52 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88872 I totally do this to myself. Although I think everyone else is doing all those amazing things I want to do as a mom and wife (cook, spotless home, reading 3 books a week, creative date nights, etc.), the truth is we're all just trying to survive and do the best we can :) Even though, I realize this, it still doesn't keep me from beating myself up or wishing I did things like so-and-so does. Hopefully someday I'll be able to stop! I totally do this to myself. Although I think everyone else is doing all those amazing things I want to do as a mom and wife (cook, spotless home, reading 3 books a week, creative date nights, etc.), the truth is we're all just trying to survive and do the best we can :) Even though, I realize this, it still doesn't keep me from beating myself up or wishing I did things like so-and-so does. Hopefully someday I'll be able to stop!

]]> By: Laundry Lady http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2012/07/if-motherhood-isnt-a-competitive-sport-then-why-do-we-beat-ourselves-up.html/comment-page-1#comment-88848 Laundry Lady Wed, 11 Jul 2012 01:10:39 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/?p=17015#comment-88848 I'm there too. While I love blogs like this, I can definitely let those amazing women's achievements make me feel inferior. I had my babies in hospitals with epidurals, even though I originally planned natural births. I don't buy all organic produce. I let my daughter watch TV more than I would like (and I feel constantly good and guilty about it, but I still do it). My writing almost always takes a back seat to just about anything else in my life. I secretly love store bought junk food. I refuse to part with my highly chemical laden deodorant. I don't use facebook and twitter, at least in part prove a point (though I'll probably have to breakdown and do it eventually). At the end of a difficult day I'd much rather plop myself in front of Netflix than do something more productive. Sometimes I feel totally out of place in the natural foods, natural parenting, blogging world. I'm there too. While I love blogs like this, I can definitely let those amazing women's achievements make me feel inferior. I had my babies in hospitals with epidurals, even though I originally planned natural births. I don't buy all organic produce. I let my daughter watch TV more than I would like (and I feel constantly good and guilty about it, but I still do it). My writing almost always takes a back seat to just about anything else in my life. I secretly love store bought junk food. I refuse to part with my highly chemical laden deodorant. I don't use facebook and twitter, at least in part prove a point (though I'll probably have to breakdown and do it eventually). At the end of a difficult day I'd much rather plop myself in front of Netflix than do something more productive. Sometimes I feel totally out of place in the natural foods, natural parenting, blogging world.

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