Serving Our Husbands Through a Nourishing Diet, Part 2

Written by Sharon Kaufman, Contributing Writer

“She does him good… all the days of her life.”

Continued from yesterday’s post

But What if My Husband Objects?

This is not unusual and can be frustrating. I have found that submission, prayer and/or a respectful appeal (in order to come to an agreeable solution, if need be) always honor God, guards against frustration and often obtains an open-mindedness from my husband. Here are some typical and reasonable objections your husband might offer:

“I really don’t care to eat that stuff.”

Personally, I would love to serve seafood once a week, but Robert loathes anything out of the water. Knowing that the Omega 3’s that fish provide are vital to health, I put it before the Lord and the answer came – COD LIVER OIL. Can you believe that? My husband would rather go hungry than let one morsel of mackerel, etc. pass through his lips, yet he will gladly slurp down a spoonful of cod liver oil (lemon taste, not fishy) every morning.

A friend of mine tried numerous times in numerous ways to introduce unrefined coconut oil to her husband, but he disliked it and detected it no matter how she disguised it in his food. Finally she relented and put her gallon of coconut oil to rest.

Subsequently, one evening after retiring for bed, her husband, attempting to kiss her goodnight, gagged and then lamented, “I cannot even give my wife a kiss goodnight without tasting that stuff!” Since she was no longer using coconut oil in the kitchen, she had begun using it as a skin moisturizer.

But here’s the clincher.  My Bible study group met at this lady’s house. When it was my turn for snack, I made popcorn – popped in coconut oil and slathered with butter. After study, her husband waltzed in and ask for something to nibble on. Not remembering the coconut oil debacle, I handed him a bag of popcorn. He gobbled it down with absolute relish, savoring every bite. Realizing this, it was all I could do to keep a straight face.

The Lord often manifests His sense of humor in providing answers and encouragement!

“We cannot afford organic.”

This is where it really pays to know your stuff. If you’ve educated yourself, you can respectfully appeal to your husband. Pray first, then approach him with ideas to make whole food work within your budget. Following is a sampling of what you might present:

Economize by:

Assure your husband that you will pray as Jesus instructed, “Give us this day our daily bread”, and believe He will. Robert and I live on a meager income and have never had to compromise at the grocery store because God has faithfully provided for us. We have not been disappointed and have found that our “thankfulness quotient” has skyrocketed.

“I’m happy with the way we’ve always eaten.”

If this is your situation and your husband will not be persuaded otherwise, and if it concerns his tastes rather than the budget, there are many things that you can do to make his meals more nutritious. Here are some ideas:

“What about desert?”

Your husband may fear that his sweet tooth will be starved (actually, that’s not a bad thing). Assure him that you will make his sweets from scratch (perhaps this is yet another way to budget for whole foods), using healthy alternative sweeteners – palm sugar, organic maple syrup, Rapadura, stevia. (Follow this link to learn why agave is even worse than HFCS.)

Since I have never baked much, our sweet treats include puddings, baked apples, parfaits, homemade ice cream, fresh peaches (or other fruit) with cream (yum!). These sweets offer less carbs than baked goods and also some nutrition in the form of eggs, cream and milk. Still, these types of foods should be served only occasionally since they still contain sugars. Alternatively, try serving salty treats such as popcorn, popped as mentioned above, peanut or almond butter on celery or salty nuts prepared for optimum nutrition.

Some Practical Ways to Nourish Your Husband

  • Make breakfast. After fasting 10 hours or more and with a full day ahead, breakfast is vital for energy and general health. “Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper.”
  • Pack a lunch if your husband eats away from home while working.
  • If your husband fills up on the main course and neglects his salad, serve the salad as a first course along with his favorite (healthy homemade) dressing.
  • Provide plenty of good fat with each meal; it satiates hunger better than carbs or protein. Your husband will go longer without needing snacks. Slather cooked veggies in butter (fat also assists in the delivery and metabolizing of nutrients in your body).

God is Honored

When it is your desire to “do your husband good” in this fashion God is glorified. He will provide in ways that you never dreamed of. Pray about any difficulties you encounter, continue your education, plan your menu, go to bed earlier, listen to your husband, and eat as many meals together as possible at the table. Go ahead…do him good!

What other snack and economizing ideas can you offer? How has your husband responded to your “doing him good” in this way?

About Sharon Kaufman

Sharon has enjoyed being Robert’s helper for 34 years. She has also loved her role of being mom to their children – one son and three daughters (now all grown) – and “Granny” to seven, and soon to be nine delightful grandchildren. She is passionate about encouraging and equipping women in her church and beyond and also through her blogs (The Good Woman) and (Franziska's Pantry) to embrace and delight in their divinely-designed occupation as helpers.

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  1. Thank you for this post, Sharon. I studied nutrition in college, so before I learned about real food I used to think I knew a lot about it, too. (I made a few changes to the USDA’s regimen…being part of a sturdy, healthy dairy ranching family, with a dietician grandmother who used to tell us in her Bakersfield drawl, “Fat’s good for ya,” I could never be convinced that margarine was better than butter, or CoolWhip better than real whipped cream!) So when I started learning about real food, saw how expensive some of it could be, and had a husband who wasn’t convinced, especially because of the budgeting, I have to admit I got a little panicky and felt a little helpless. The tips you gave are so helpful and practical, and I was really encouraged by your reminder that this is a way we can be a suitable helper to our husbands. Thanks again.

  2. Heather says:

    I have really enjoyed this 2 part entry. My husband has been mostly agreeable to our nutrition updates over the years. We also found that we did not like the taste of the unrefined coconut oil, but we do use and enjoy the refined version from Tropical Traditions, that I purchase through Azure Standard. And, my hubby couldn’t do without his homemade Chocolate Chip Cookies, so we use whole wheat pastry flour, along with sucanat, oh, and our own homegrown eggs! By the way, scrambled eggs in that refined coconut oil are fabulous!

  3. This post makes me laugh a little. :) Mostly because when I wanted to make changes, I brought my research to my husband and his initial reaction was “Okay, I’ll try.” But he really did try because it was important to him to support me. He never fought me. And once he saw how much better he felt and other positive changes, he became SUCH an advocate that if I’m tired and busy and want to just run out and get something, he’s the one who reminds me about how important it is to stick with the changes we’ve made! He is a HUGE advocate for real food now!
    .-= Kate´s last blog ..Journey to Real Food: Introduction =-.

  4. Really, what husband would complain about a diet that includes homemade bread with real butter and bacon!! Not mine. We’ve minimized sweets over the past couple of years and don’t really miss them. Enjoyed these posts.

  5. I have to agree with the last commenter, these two posts have been very helpful and inspirational! My husband has been keeping a fairly open mind to trying new healthier foods. I think he is really starting to appreciate my homemade versions of dinners and desserts.
    .-= Greta @ Mom Living Healthy´s last blog ..Moving Matters: How Much Physical Activity Do Families Need? =-.

  6. I have really loved these posts. I have been inspired so much, and I think that they’re about the most helpful posts I’ve ever read. I got up this morning and made hubby a healthy breakfast. :) thank you!

  7. Just wondering when sweeteners were mentioned. I have switched to using organic evaporated cane juice, and sucanat (mainly sucanat). Is there some reason these were not mentioned? Maple syrup is even more expensive for me, and I can’t get Rapadura or palm sugar, and we don’t like Stevia (plus I’ve heard some conflicting info with it, too).

    Funny about the coconut oil. I can’t stand the stuff, even the smell. Seriously it makes me want to throw up! I don’t know why. I’ve never liked coconut. My husband doesn’t either. I’ve tried…but I can always taste it…even on popcorn! :)

    • Hi Nola,

      The list of sweeteners was not all-inclusive. I also use sucanat and it is mentioned in the post I linked to. Organic evaporated cane juice is just a little too much like processed white sugar for me to personally use since it has a profound effect upon my heart rate. The more nutrients left in the product the better. I also did not mention other sweeteners that are good – molasses, maple sugar, sorghum, brown rice syrup, etc.

      About the coconut oil, have you tried the more refined version? It has no taste or smell, but retains most of the nutrients.

      Thank you for your questions,
      Sharon K

      • @Sharon, Ok that makes sense. I agree about the organic evaporated cane juice, its a rare thing around here (well actually I don’t use any sweeteners other than fruit for me, and for my husband, like I said its mainly sucanat). I agree its not as good, but my husband expressed desire to occasionally have something more like white sugar, so I see this as a happy medium.

        Coconut oil- maybe you can help me out here. I thought I had read that the refined version that doesn’t smell or taste WASN’T as good for you. I did try that, and liked it, but then I read somewhere that I might as well not use it. Its hard when there is conflicting info out there.

        • Nona,
          I think you need to be selective about the brand of coconut oil. Tropical Traditions has a refined coconut oil that still retains much of the nutrient value. The cheaper brands are not worth buying because the process they are put through devalues the oil dramatically. Check out the Tropical Traditions brand and read what their website has to say:

          It really is a good thing to add to your diet if possible. If I were to credit any one food for my own healing concerning BP and heart issues I would have to say that it was coconut oil.