Comments on: Living Simply Saturday: No is not a dirty word http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html Naturally inspired living for the Christian homemaker Thu, 18 Mar 2010 03:53:20 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Nola http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html/comment-page-1#comment-22063 Nola Sat, 10 Jan 2009 18:31:54 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html#comment-22063 I used to find it more difficult to say no than I do now. I think what helped me change some is to have in mind what each season's main goal is. Of course there are always the priorities I try to keep in order of how each thing fits in with God, my husband, my daughter, my home, and my church and other things. Some goals will stay the same for a long time, but others change with the seasons of life and that is what I mean. If whatever I am asked to do/want to do interferes with the priorites mentioned above or my main goal of the season I am in, then I can't do it. For example, right now, I am in a season of needing to focus on preparing for having a new baby and getting enough rest to insure that it goes as well as possible. So I have scaled way back on the things that I do outside of my home in light of my lack of energy, need to preserve what energy I have, and need to attend many appointments that take time and energy. So basically I try to see what I want to/am asked to do whether it fits in with my priorities and the main goal of whatever season I am in. If it doesn't, then I realize that my job is to say no. I am called to do a good job of being a homemaker so this is what I see I have to do. I know, overly simplified but it is my aim to do this. I used to find it more difficult to say no than I do now. I think what helped me change some is to have in mind what each season's main goal is. Of course there are always the priorities I try to keep in order of how each thing fits in with God, my husband, my daughter, my home, and my church and other things. Some goals will stay the same for a long time, but others change with the seasons of life and that is what I mean. If whatever I am asked to do/want to do interferes with the priorites mentioned above or my main goal of the season I am in, then I can't do it. For example, right now, I am in a season of needing to focus on preparing for having a new baby and getting enough rest to insure that it goes as well as possible. So I have scaled way back on the things that I do outside of my home in light of my lack of energy, need to preserve what energy I have, and need to attend many appointments that take time and energy. So basically I try to see what I want to/am asked to do whether it fits in with my priorities and the main goal of whatever season I am in. If it doesn't, then I realize that my job is to say no. I am called to do a good job of being a homemaker so this is what I see I have to do. I know, overly simplified but it is my aim to do this.

]]> By: Lorie http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html/comment-page-1#comment-22062 Lorie Sat, 10 Jan 2009 15:53:19 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html#comment-22062 It is so important to know when and how to say no!! It is so easy to get over burdened and not have enough time for the most important things!! It is so important to know when and how to say no!! It is so easy to get over burdened and not have enough time for the most important things!!

]]> By: Jessica O. http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html/comment-page-1#comment-22061 Jessica O. Sat, 10 Jan 2009 15:00:37 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html#comment-22061 Hi! I don't know if you have heard of "Managers of their homes" by the Maxwells www.titus2.com It is wonderful....all their books & items are.....They have a GREAT childrens series called the "Moody" series that is great for kids.....They just came out with a new book called "Managers of their schools" that looks great.....would be great for anyone wanting to home school..... Hi! I don't know if you have heard of "Managers of their homes" by the Maxwells http://www.titus2.com It is wonderful....all their books & items are.....They have a GREAT childrens series called the "Moody" series that is great for kids.....They just came out with a new book called "Managers of their schools" that looks great.....would be great for anyone wanting to home school.....

]]> By: Michelle http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html/comment-page-1#comment-22060 Michelle Sat, 10 Jan 2009 14:47:54 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html#comment-22060 This one can be hard for me, too - looking at is at good vs best is a great perspective! I also heard a great speaker once who said that the 80/20 rule applies to all of us. There is something we are giving our 80% to and the rest of the stuff just gets 20% - that is just how it is. So, now when I see someone giving there all and feel bad I am not doing as much, I just recognize that this may be her 80% thing and there are other things that she is only giving 20% to. In the end, we have to answer to ourselves and to God - that is it. This one can be hard for me, too - looking at is at good vs best is a great perspective!

I also heard a great speaker once who said that the 80/20 rule applies to all of us. There is something we are giving our 80% to and the rest of the stuff just gets 20% - that is just how it is. So, now when I see someone giving there all and feel bad I am not doing as much, I just recognize that this may be her 80% thing and there are other things that she is only giving 20% to.

In the end, we have to answer to ourselves and to God - that is it.

]]> By: Kara http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html/comment-page-1#comment-22059 Kara Sat, 10 Jan 2009 14:13:44 +0000 http://www.keeperofthehome.org/2009/01/living-simply-saturday-no-is-not-a-dirty-word.html#comment-22059 I've been writing about learning to say "no" for months now LOL. So nice to hear another post about what really matters. Thanks! Blessings, Kara I've been writing about learning to say "no" for months now LOL. So nice to hear another post about what really matters. Thanks!

Blessings,
Kara

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